Have you ever been so busy trying to figure something out that you didn't realize you hadn't given yourself a moment to think?
Maybe something didn't go as planned, a conversation left you frustrated, or you found yourself dealing with the same situation again. Before you know it, you're asking, “Why does this keep happening? What am I missing? What do I need to do differently?”
I've learned that sometimes those questions are enough to tell us it's time to Pause. Not because we already know what's wrong, but because something deserves our attention.
In my LinkedIn newsletter, I wrote about The Check Engine Light You've Been Ignoring. Those recurring questions can be like that warning light. They're signals inviting us to pay attention before we keep moving in the same direction.
I've also learned that I can be so focused on figuring out what to do next that I don't always give myself the space to become present and notice what's happening. And when I'm already frustrated, adding more questions and pressure doesn't necessarily help me find an answer.
Think about a familiar morning when you're trying to get out the door and suddenly can't find your keys. You check the counter, look through your bag, open a drawer and then check the counter again. Meanwhile, the clock is moving, somebody needs something, and your frustration is growing. Before long, a missing set of keys has turned into a much bigger conversation about everything that's going wrong that morning.
Now, you could keep searching faster, getting more frustrated and trying to solve everything at once. Or you could give yourself a moment to Pause.
The keys haven't magically appeared, and the clock hasn't stopped. But you've created a little space to become present instead of continuing to react to everything happening around you.
That's what Pause is intended to do. It creates the space.
Once you've given yourself that space, you can begin to Pinpoint what actually needs your attention. Right now, you need to find your keys. But perhaps there's also something about your morning routine, your expectations or the responsibilities you're carrying that deserves a closer look. Or maybe it was simply one of those mornings when things didn't go as planned.
The important thing is that you don't have to identify the problem before you give yourself permission to Pause.
I developed the 6 P's of Personal Growth™ as practical tools we can return to when life happens. Pause and Pinpoint are connected, but they don't do the same job. Pause gives us room to become present. Pinpoint helps us identify what needs addressing.
And this isn't just about misplaced keys. It might be a conversation you've been avoiding, a commitment you keep postponing, a pattern that keeps showing up in your relationships or something at work that you haven't been able to resolve.
So here's something I'd like you to try this week. When you notice yourself asking the same questions or reacting to the same situation again, don't immediately demand an answer from yourself. Give yourself a moment to Pause. Then, when you're ready, begin to Pinpoint what deserves your attention.
You may discover that what you've been trying to fix isn't necessarily what needs addressing.
Progress, not perfection or performance.
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Something to think about: What recurring question or situation in your life might be signaling that it's time to Pause?
If this gave you something useful to think about, share it with someone who may need a moment before figuring out their next step. Sometimes a simple question becomes a doorway. 🪷
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